All attack is a call for help

 Most of us desire to help and heal humanity. Some of us know how to be benificial and some in the process of helping lose themselves.
How does one lose oneself in the process of helping?
Imagine a situation where your friend is suffering, something bad happened,  they lost their jobs or got divorced. They are sharing their burden with you. While listening to your friend you feel the urge to do something, to speak something, to make them feel better but you just don't know what to do. Therefore, you fill your mind with doubtful and negative thoughts. You begin wondering : what can I do to help them; what advice shall I give to them; would those advices help; who am I anyway to tell them advices ; I do not think I am the right person to give any advice;  I don't even know who I am; what am I experiences. In the midst of all these unanswered questions,  you finally ask the question that start the process of knowing.
What do I want here?
Life has divided a way for us to create a new, and know, who we are in our experience. Life did this by providing us with:

1. Relativity 
A system where we can exist as a thing in relationship to something else.

2. Forgetfulness 
A process by which we willingly submit to total amnesia so that we cannot know that relativity is merely a  trick, and that you are all of it.

3. Consciousness 
A state of being in which we grow until we reach full awareness,  then become true and living powerful human, creating and experiencing our own reality, expanding and exploring that reality , changing and recreating that reality as we stretch our consciousness to new limits or shall we say,  to no limits.

One of the greatest help you can give to a person is to wake them up, to remind them of Who They Really Are. There are ways to do that. Sometimes with a little bit of help; a push, a shove, a nudge... and sometimes with a decision  to let them run their course, follow their path, walk their walk, without any interference or intervention from us.

" Sometimes the best way to love someone,  and the most help you can give, is to let them alone or empower them to help themselves."

Speak humbly of yourself,  lest someone mistake your highest truth for a boast.
Speak softly lest someone think you are merely calling for attention.
Speak gently, that all might know of love.
Speak openly,  lest anyone think you have something to hide.
Speak candidly, so you cannot be mistaken.
Speak often, so that your word may truly go forth.
Speak respectfully,  that no one be dishonered.
Speak lovingly, that every syllable may heal.

Be a gift to everyone who enters your life, and to everyone whose life you enter. Be careful not to enter another's life if you cannot be a gift.
Every person who has ever come to our life has come to receive a gift from us. In doing so,  they give a gift for us - the gift of us experiencing and fulfilling Who We Are.